I began writing about forgetful kids earlier in the day on my lunch break, but actually couldn’t bring myself to type it.  Not for any other reason than I really didn’t want to write about my boy, my H and how scatty he is.  I began to question why I’d want to do that to him, why would a parent write about their kid, especially at such a crucial stage (he’s turning 12 on Friday!).  I could embarrass the hell out of him.  Two things then came to me…

  1. I’m his mum, it’s my job to embarrass my kids.
  2. Actually his friends all know what he is like so it’s not like I’m giving away a major secret.

Then my lunch (half) hour was over, so I had to wait till tonight to finish.

Forgetful Kids

So for those of you who don’t already know, my eldest boy ‘H’ is a tad forgetful.  I’m not talking bits here or there, a letter from school, a sock out his PE Kit.  No I’m talking full bags of PE Kit, Jackets, Mobile Phones and probably his best yet a whole School Bag!

He started high school in September of this year and so far we have lost the following:

  • PE Kit x 3
  • CousCous x 1 – to be fair it was his first lesson, and maybe best #sorrynotsorry
  • Mobile Phone x 2
  • Jacket x 1
  • Bus Pass x 1
  • Letters from school – too many to count
  • School Bag x 1 incl. pencil case, school books, text books etc.
  • Homework Planner x 3

Am I To Blame?

I sometimes wonder if we apply too much pressure these days.  So much to remember at such a young age.  But I also have to admit that H is my boy, my baby, my preemie miracle, and I have treated him with kid gloves.  So am I to blame?  He’s the first born and as I say was 5 weeks premature.  I know fine well that I have done more for him than my other two.  The youngest, poor Samuel is left at the wayside with things in comparison with what I did for Henry.

But Samuel is one of the most independent little beings that you could ever know.  He certainly won’t be forgetting s**t at school (unless he deliberately choose too, which wouldn’t surprise me!).  And my middle boy Fred is just so cocksure that even if he did lose or forget something, he’d not hesitate to ensure he got it back.  Or at worst he’d manage to charm his way right out of it!

It’s so hard as a parent to admit that you’ve possibly/probably contributed to a particular trait in your own kids.  Have I let him down, will this be something he struggles with  forever?  But then I give myself a slap and tell myself I need to get a grip!  There are plenty of forgetful people in the world (me included – and actually that’s a point, all my boys contributed to my forgetfulness as I was never like this before kids! #quidproquo)

I can also console myself with this new paper by the journal Neuron which states that not only is forgetfulness normal but it actually makes us smarter!  So maybe H is a genius in the making.

For now I’ll take that.  Along with some tracking devices I can attached to his jacket, bag, books…

Any advice gratefully received!

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